Should she wait for a married man or walk away?

I have a question here from Kimmie and she has a relationship with a man whom she has been involved with for about two and a half years. He is married but they feel a strong connection and they love each other and feel they are meant to be together. But he is staying with his wife for his child. Her question is why do they keep coming back to each other. He says that they will be together one day but she doesn’t know whether she should wait for him or walk away.
She does know. She has a very sad heart, this being. She wants very much the love that she needs. Her heart and her mind are in constant fighting at this time. She is probably feeling very exhausted, highs and lows.

Blessed being, he is choosing to stay for his child, he says. But what you are hearing is that he is choosing them over you. It is important that you understand your choice. He is choosing for him, and you must choose for you. Love is an amazing energy. The attraction between the two of you is ancient; many lifetimes have been shared together. And many times it has not been as whole and complete as you have needed it to be. So part of you does know that you must choose to move forward now.

Why is it that in the physical world that one must stop loving in order to be that that they need to be? This is not a truth. You are a loving, amazing creature, one that is filled with compassion and love for many beings. Be clear with your knowledge of what you must do for your growth. Stop fighting your heart. Be that that you need to be for your being, for your choice. Understand that love only moves forward. Growth—it doesn’t stop. Surround the being with love, ensuring that he will choose and move, as he needs to do so. And surround yourself with love, so that you must do what you need to do in this path. Should the time come when you choose to be close, do so. But for now you need to have a separation of paths so that you might think clearly on what you need to do.

Many times in your life you have made choices not to grow for other beings, allowing the their growth to be more important than yours. Choose now for you, my blessed one. Choose for your growth. Oh my beautiful being, allow the light that you are to radiate. Hold not back your love. Move forward in choices, in growth, for your own being.

I feel very sad when I hear you talk about her because she so obviously wants someone to love her, to be with her.
Yes.

It’s hard to be alone.

She is choosing to be alone. She need not be. There are many. There truly is another being that is in her path, that she has not yet met, that will give her great enjoyment and happiness. That that she fears is that that she has created. Tell her to love herself.

I will, and thank you.

Marriage, separation and children

Now I have a question from Christine. The question is about her daughter’s relationship with her husband. She wants to know why he is not returning home to her and the children. She wants to know if this is a marriage that can be saved or if they are better off apart.

This being, this husband, is very overwhelmed. Is very afraid of not being able to be what is needed. Feels unable to fulfill what is expected. This one struggles a great deal and has many deep questions within his body. He’s not sure who he is for himself, never mind for his dear wife. And she is very afraid and very needing and it is overwhelming when they are together. The unspoken things in the room create tension. The chaos is overwhelming. The chaos is a manifestation of that that is between the two of them—things unspoken, never directly. Both assuming things about the other and never speaking truth. Her heart is broken and so is his because neither can speak. As to coming back, there is nothing to come back to. This has never been a truth state. It was a continuum—something that carried on a long time and just resulted in…. Well, there was a promise, a most blessed promise. Children are wonderful and these are never a mistake or an accident, but a wonderful gift. And so let it be that this is what has brought the two of them together. And both can be magnificent parents, but until they can speak openly and honestly about who they are inside to one another, there is nothing to call a marriage.

Sometimes when people marry, the promise might simply be to have children then?
Oh, absolutely my dear. Sometimes that is one of the greatest purposes for two people to come together.
Yes, I don’t mean to belittle it; it’s a very special thing.
To facilitate the entrance of a being, to bring together nourishment and love, to help them to grow and be and learn and do what they need to do. That is a magnificent promise.
Bless these children. Tell them to be strong. Tell them to find joy in life. They are so sad.

It is always sad and difficult when your parents separate. It’s very hard on children.
And these children feel this. They are very much burdened by it. Tell the mother that it would be better for them to be clear about it. That daddy still loves them but that he just comes ones in a while. It’s very sad. For they are trying to make reasons why the two should be together.

So how can we best help children in that situation?
By never assuming that they don’t understand. They do. Speak it in simple and plain words. For they know exactly the vibrational state that Mommy is in. And she should say some days she is sad. And when she is happy she can say “Today I am happy” or “children you make me so happy.” But not to burden them with the responsibility to make her happy. Be very open and clear about how she is feeling because these children see her as a barometer. They watch every second that she be. And when she is in this chaos, they are feeling chaos—not grounded or safe. Tell this to her. And it is his responsibility to help the children feel safe as well. Not just the mother’s. It takes two, so tell them this.

Thank you so much.