Concern about a grandson's travels

Anonymous asks about her grandson named Blaine.  He is 20 years old and very adventurous and just left to go to South America,starting in Mexico. He will come back to finish his studies. He will travel most of the time by himself. He is a very deep thinker and mature for his age but I am concerned for his safety. 

And is that not the natural state of being a grandparent?  It is parenting with the big picture.  Of course, because you have walked a path and know that there are things that can befall a being.  But do not dull his shiny being.  Know that this one needs to seek out his truth.  Always be there, never judging, but always listening.  And surround him in a cushion of light and love that you have for him and trust that his wisdom will see him through.  He is a good being, trust in this.

Advice for a single mom about the father of her children

 

"One single mom" asks for advice about the father of her children. She says, "In the same breathe often he will proclaim this great love for his kids and how he misses them immensely and is so very sad he is apart from them - but he will also tell me he is too busy to see them as he has to work hard to provide for them, or that he needs to get away to clear his head because he is so unhappy. I do not appreciate his behavior. His communication skills do not make any sense and give me a headache. 

I have hovered over my children to protect them from his nonsense but now I am thinking they need to learn how to deal with his personality. They are strong but I don't want him to hurt them emotionally the way he has me. And I do realize that their relationship with him is different from his and mine. I am tired and overworked because he knows that I will do all the parenting and care giving while he tends to his own desires. Will my children be happy and feel secure and safe if they spend more time with him? And how many lifetimes have I shared with these two gigantic little ones? Many thanks and love."

This one has spent many lifetimes with these children, and not always has she been the mother.  As to the father, do not worry dear one.  Do not feel responsible for their relationship with him.  They will find it and it will grow. together--at the same rate.  Your frustration with this being is something that you must just, well, relax about.  You cannot be the one for all.  You can only be the mother.  Know that your children will be secure if you are secure.  Yes, and I know she seeks.

Difficulty with a family member

JanJan writes that she seems to be constantly at loggerheads with a close family member. She says, "it's a very volatile situation and I feel like just giving up on this person. I am trying very hard to just let it BE, I bless the situation and the person but sometimes it all comes crashing down and all I want to do is just lash out in anger (verbally not physically). I value the messages and the insight that is given here as they have always helped me in the past."

Dear heart, dear heart, there is great grieving within you that you are not as radiant as you are. Lashing out is not what you want to do, so know that is why it is wrong for you. Take time now to love yourself, to see yourself strong and whole. You know within yourself that you are a good, wonderous being. If there is something that antagonizes you, be still, examine. Often times when something is the most irritating it is because there is something you need to learn within it and you are in some part. And be patient within yourself little one. Some parts are not willing to move forward, or to take a step of growth. Have humour and love. Be patient. You know your truth blessed one. Lashing out only makes you feel bad. It is as if drinking the poison to hurt someone else, will not help you my dear. Be still, love yourself. And in time you will forgive, you will love. Most importantly, you will be willing.