Doubts about a relationship

This is a question from someone who doesn't give a name. She asks about her relationship with a man she knew many years ago. She has been with this one for about a year but now feels uncertain because of some of his behaviours. She asks if she is just scared or if this is not a good relationship for her. She says, "I want to be in a relationship, be a family. I did not like being single, nor wa i good at it. I attracted all the wrong men or was attracted to them, more acurately. Here I have this good man & am floundering still......."

Blessed, dearest one, many questions, many fears, many truths. You are very confused for you have worked very hard to trust your inner voice, your self knowing, your truth. And now you are trying to push it away. Now doubting something you have worked very hard to attain. And now you don’t know where you stand.

Let go of all things my dearest one and go to that place of inner light, of knowing of yourself. You are a family. You have wonderful, wonderful children. They grow and they are beautiful. This being that returns into your path awakes part of you, the sexual, the womanly, and the necessary parts of being whole. And as soon as something comes that you find that your truth does not fit, you are ready to throw out your whole truth, and push yourself into a place, in an old pattern. When you are unsure of that, it is a time to be still.

It is a time to allow states to grow. You will find even your own choices have not been made lately. You find you chose for others and not for you. Think well of this my dear. It is a moment and time of great growth but you are fearing stepping backwards. I am not saying that it cannot grow and move forward. But you are trying to move forward right now. You must think well in this. Trust in you again, my dear. Trust in the beauty and wonder of you and what you offer. Bless you my child. You are not alone. Can I give you reassurances of what lies ahead? No--I can only tell you, you must make choices and therein lies your growth.

She says she doesn’t trust her feelings.

I know. She doesn’t want to feel what her feelings are telling her. She has worked very hard to be able to hear her own inner voice. I will not give her the choices to make. 

It is her choice?

Yes, it must be.

Often we want to ask the guides to make choices or decisions for us, but this they cannot do.  If our guides were to tell us what to do with our lives they would be taking away from our growth--the most important part of being here.  When reading the words of the guides, listen carefully for keys that may be in the response.  Keys that will help you find your own way. 

At a loss when a relationship ends

Sarah asks about the breakup of her relationship. She believes it was the big purpose for this life and she now feels lost and adrift.

Blessed one, you are not alone.  You are in a time of perhaps shock, or a deep, deep state of grief.  Be not looking as to any one being doing this to you.  But see this as simply part of a path and you seeking out the truth.  Your actions, your choices brought forward this state of awareness.  Embrace it my child.  Feel it.  Grieve for that dream that you had that was different from the reality.

Understand that the reality, what you have now, is good.  You have great abilities to soothe others, to help others.  But you have often left yourself helpless.  Apply to your life, witness your life, see your life as you have been doing and understand that this is part of a great healing.  You might think it is strange that you must be in pain in a time of healing.  Healing occurs when you feel it, when you see it and your senses are all one that dwell with you in the physical world at this very time.  Does it go away and then return?  No, my child it becomes a part of you and the rich, rich tapestry of who you are.  You feel pain because you have these depths.  Yes, you did choose to return to balance, not some great debt my child, but to help another grow.  So, if your pain is a disappointment for what could have been, but rejoice in your clarity that you know now your truth.  You might feel that you are cut adrift, but you are not.  You have never been stronger then you are now.  For these next steps that you choose, you will choose with total consciousness, spiritually and physically.

Do not be afraid to use the great abilities that you have--to help others, to heal and they in turn will help you to heal.   There are many that wish to support you, but you do not let them close.  I do not mean support you as in doing all things for you but to help you on this path.  Do not keep things so close to your heart.  Open yourself.    Allow the light and the love of what you see in your world to come out.

In time my dearest one, you will understand that this was one of the greatest things you have done for yourself.  Be loving and gentle and patient with your being and you shall see.  You are not alone my dear.

A slight delay

To those of you who have posted questions from August 24th onward, please bear with us for a little bit longer. We've fallen behind schedule with responding and since we're each away on holiday for a short time now, there may be a week or so delay. Meanwhile here's a photo from Yellowstone.
Thanks for your patience.  Joanna

Finding your truth; allowing others theirs

Anonymous asks, "Is it possible for people to levitate and shape shift?  I believe it is possible but my friend is skeptical and I’m trying to explain these things to him.  Many thanks for your thoughts."

 

Dear one, you can never deliver truth to another being--for your truth is yours.  That is the mystery and the wonderful thing about the process of the spirit.  That being must find in his own time and place what is right for him.  Their truth is theirs alone.  You can only know your own my dear.  And if it is truth to you then so be it. 

Do people levitate?  All the time.  Do they change shape?  Yes, of course.  But that is what you have—your truth.  Allow them theirs.  Be not afraid of differences.  This is a good thing about the physical world—it teaches you a great deal.  Have compassion for their truth; and compassion for your own.  Do not be afraid to have a truth that is yours and perhaps is not everyone else’s.  Let it be.

Yes, so often we want to find out if this idea is “the truth”.  It’s the same with the Mayan Calendar or different ways of seeing our place in the world.  Can you comment on that?

Well, it’s usually the middle ground of evolution where everyone wants to be the same.  Very evolved beings, well there is not so much a need.  In fact, they usually don’t like to be seen at all.  And the very new ones well they’re very much:  Hey, look at me and I’m different.  The middle ones state of growth is that they all want to be the same, so they all must be in the same state of understanding, they all want the same vision of what is.  They feel comfort in the mass instead of in the single being.  It’s nothing to be afraid of.  It’s simply a state of being.

So if you are in that state you want to find a bunch of people who believe the same way as you do.

Yes, like feelings.  You feel safe.

So you can all gather together and feel you’re experiencing something in a safe way.

Yes, they cannot stay there forever.  Do not worry, they won’t.  They will move forward.

Well there are a lot of different groups. 

Yes, yes.  Unfortunately they take up opinions against one another.  Judgment in your world…well it creates growth.  Though it isn’t’ the most helpful in achieving growth.

Yes, I know what you mean.

Confused about love

I have a question from a person who gave no name. She says, “This is not my first marriage and I have been married to my current husband for quite a few years. I care for him, but do not feel a deep love. I feel like we were siblings in a previous life. I have never had a marriage where I felt a deep love like I feel for my children or grandchildren. Is this my path through this lifetime? Thank you so much for all that you do.”

Dearest one. You are confused about physical love; the highest love being that of spirit. It is all just different forms and different vibrations. But love is love, and you have it for all mankind, but you don’t have it for yourself. And so you are not willing to be complete with any of these beings, without giving it in such a flood towards them that you cannot receive it for yourself.

To feel that physical love you must receive it, so you must love yourself. You have had some feelings of numbness with in the body and being; confusion of what sexually you really be and want. You have had many solitary lifetimes in which love was given freely but touch not. In this lifetime you very much need touch. You need to accept it. Open yourself my dearest one. Allow touch. Just receive. Do not give back. It doesn’t mean that you cannot give back. But allow yourself moments of just receiving. Love yourself enough to give yourself this, dearest. I hope you will do this for you are truly a wondrous being. You need to feel all the love that is there for you.

Struggling with depression

Lindsay writes about struggling with depression and anxiety. She wants to know why she is going through this and how she can protect her family. She says, “I know it hurts them and it makes me sad to be such a burden. I try to will myself out of it but it still remains a struggle. I would love to be able to conquer it without medication. Thank you so much for your love and guidance. I would appreciate any advice.”

Dearest Lindsay, you have accepted a belief of the medical society, and have limited your being because of this. And part of you fights that truth, even though that is not your truth. You are trying to fit into a position of being when your being is much greater than this. It is needed for you to break the mold, to be. You are wise beyond your physical years and you have much to give, that is your greatest frustration. You cannot find a focus in which this opening can be. And when you open these floodgates all will pour from you with great wisdom, for you have so much to give.

You have walked a walk that fulfilled many things and helped many people, but it did not satisfy you. And so you feel that there must be something wrong with you. No dearest, it is just time for you to be that that you are.

Take time to explore the wonder of you. What did you want to do or be as a small child? Or perhaps when you were 13? Explore the wonder of who you are and the many things that you perhaps shut doors on way back when, that you now could open. Do not fight or deny the medical system for it has purpose and has helped you a great deal at certain times. Trust that the time will come when you will know that you are ready to do and be. But do not shut doors right now; begin opening them. You are an exciting being. Be it dearest.

Healing sadness within

Someone who didn't give a name asked how to heal the deep sadness within.

Dear one, you are a very intuitive being and early, early in life the trauma that you felt all around you set you on a path to make everyone feel secure and steady. The base of this trauma was the sadness that you felt. And now you no longer need this old suit of armor. And to release it you must feel it and see how it has affected each condition that has arisen, or element of learning that has arisen on your path. How the sadness manifested and how you overturned it by being very constructive and active. How you moved forward, and did not allow yourself the whole of the pain and the sadness.

You are the most magnificent evolution of being. When this occurs, when the body no longer wants to carry this condition or this attitude it manifests pain. In other words, it creates a reason to bring up a sadness, so that you might release it. So when something that may not seem important might overwhelm you with sadness. Stop. Be in it. Feel it. If tears come let them flow. Do not judge yourself or take on the discomfort of another about your feelings of need to be seen and heard and felt by your own being. And in time you’ll see how light you’ll begin to feel. And the burden of heaviness upon your shoulders will be much lighter. And you will giggle with a joy deep within.

It is not that that will go away, it is that you will have accepted that it is part of you, a blessed wonderful part of you. Healing is not the cutting out and chopping up that is often thought of in your physical world. It is embracing, surrendering, accepting, loving. Love that part of your being that wanted to help others but in fact harmed you in the process. You needn’t do that any more.

You know very well that you tried to be the best for those around you. And they often didn’t see it and it hurt you greatly. And you can actually heal all of that. The irritation you felt with your mother when she didn’t see the sensitivities within you can be healed. They don’t go away, but you become greater than this by loving and healing your being, and allowing your being free of conditions under these emotional states.

It doesn’t happen quickly dear. It takes a while. I thank you for being ready and willing. For this is the greatest step to take. Forget about repeating patterns, it’s not so much this, as just feeling and being exactly who you are--a wonderful spirit in body with all emotions open, and tuning them to the right vibration for you.

Thank you for this information.

Getting beyond anxiety and feelings of being different

Gina has asked several questions, focused on her feelings of being different from others because of her lack of social interaction and difficulties getting along with other people. It sounds as though she has had some negative experiences and hasn’t been able to get past them. She’d like to have a healthy and close social relationship and wants to get beyond the fear and nervousness and anxiety she feels.

Dear Gina. You have to remember: you are not the thought--you are the thinker. You are the creator of these thoughts. The negativity; you created it—for that is the lens that you believe you need to look through. If you understand this, then you can release yourself from this.

Practice going to the stillness within yourself, where there is no judgment, there is no thought. There is wonder. Do you understand that you’re part of the whole? You vibrate at a certain rate, as others who manifest bodies do. But you are all made up of the same. The conditions or the attitudes under which you grew affected you, and caused you to think—or perhaps wear these glasses so that you see the world in a different way.

People are not judging you, my dearest. You are judging you—and with such harsh conditions. Gentle one, allow them to see who you really are: the beautiful being who loves nature, loves the beauty of the world. Do not judge yourself so harshly. Slowly, I know you do not want to do this in a hurry. But you can. Because once you stop looking through these lenses you will instantly see the brightness, the beauty of who you are.

You are wanting a close relationship, but are limiting yourself from being there because you have judged that they do not want you. Yet this is not so. You have withdrawn before allowing them to even see you. Just try it. You have nothing to fear.

Now—touch, extend yourself outside of your limitations and see how wonderfully warm you will feel. You’ve had an attitude and understanding that something is wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with you. Your body is strong and beautiful and wants very much to help you fulfill all that you have come to do (of which there is a great deal yet).

You have read many things and heard many theories and beliefs but have never allowed your own truth to shine through. You felt confused by the body instead of loving it. You have accepted some attitude about what it is instead of what it truly is. Dearest child. You are a being of light. You are perfect. The manifestation of you is what you need it to be. Let the true light of you to shine through. And allow others in. I love you my child.

A journey to Machu Picchu?

Ruth Anne says she has the opportunity to go to Machu Picchu in 2010 and she wants to know if it will be a worthwhile journey for her from a spiritual perspective. She worries about the distance but she is fascinated and drawn to the Mayan calendar and the significance of 2012. She asks, “Do you have any insight in this trip as to my spiritual growth?”

Dearest Ruth Anne, you worry so much. You need to be still, to see the blessings you have and the power you are. Your great desire to be sure of every step limits you from great joy my child. Trust that you are wise, that you know what is right. Seek your own great wisdom from within. Any travel or trip should bring you great learning. There is too much fear involved with this now. You must release this and trust that it can be joyous. Or do not go if it causes you such strain, and instead travel to your own inner being.

You grew up in a lifetime of uncertainty, never feeling great strength from any place. Feeling always you had to create it for yourself. Be still my child. You are a strong being. Seek your truth. Take time for this first; then you will know if the traveling to this place is for your greater growth.

Do you have any comment about the Mayan calendar and the significance of 2012?

Not unlike many civilizations in the physical dimension, trying to control their surroundings. Trying to name and limit all manner of the physical. It is believed because it is a complete circle, that it ends. They do not understand that a circle has no end, or beginning. Because in spirit nothing ends and the beginning is constant.

All of those that fear this are choosing to fear this. Trust in the power of being. You choose. You can choose to end your circle, if you see it as thus. Or you can choose to continue. Remember your own power.

Every civilization over and over--circles within circles--will rise, will try to contain, and then come to the realization that it cannot be. And will return to begin again. Do not fear this birth. Rejoice in it.

Thank you.

The effect of planets and the sun and moon

Kristine asks if the planets have an effect on us as the astrologers say, and she also wonders about the moon, whether it has an effect on us.

Yes, absolutely. All are symbols of the great creation of being—circles within circles. Of course these elements all draw on the very creation of the physical being—the elements, the positive, the negative. It is well known that the moon has a great pull upon the physical. Children are born; beings leave at certain times of your moon phases. Your tides, the great ocean (which is a huge dimension in the physical world) is pulled back and forth by your moon, by your sun. And the physical domain cannot exist without it. This is a symbiotic relationship, not only with warmth but in the very healing and growth within the body.

Yes, dearest Kristine, all matter has an effect on your development. Everything--the earth you walk on, the plants that grow from it, the air that you breathe—supports this learning dimension. It is part of this dimension. Nothing is without a purpose and a reason.

The study of astrology takes this quite a lot further in talking about planets having an effect on your birth. Is there anything to that?

Yes, somewhat. Of course, like all conditions in the human experience, those that want to categorize, they limit somewhat. Take all learning and use it for what is right for you. If those need to follow a ritual routine by someone that is limiting them, then that is where they need to be. Is it the absolute truth? It is--for one who wishes it to be so. Remember your power, your choice. If you give up your power into another belief then you limit yourself.

Very wise words.

No, they are truth.

Thank you.

What to do next in life

Gail says she would like to do something besides just working on the farm and at the postal service. She is thinking retiring and raising dogs but wonders if she can make money at that. She has also started painting. She says, "I receive no emotional support on either of these. I need direction. I feel good when I am painting but the end product does not meet my standards. Am I wrong to continue or are the dogs the answer? I think I am in a sort of a mid life crisis of a personal nature. Things I thought I wanted have faded and things I want to do have been put on the back burner. I want to be me and do not know who that is."

Firstly, dear one, know that you’ve lived a very scheduled, routine life and I’m not surprised that you fee somewhat cast adrift. If you think about leaving one very structured thing in the postal service and the farm life too is very structured; there are certain things you must do at certain times of the day. I’m not surprised that freeing of your being is somewhat frightening.

Dear one, don’t look to other people for acceptance or non-acceptance. Look to yourself. What do you want to do? Just wander about and dream and play and try things out. There’s too much thinking you must put out to receive back—and that comes from your structure all these years. Be patient with yourself. Find fun; find joy.

You’re a brilliant being with so much to do yet. Don’t think you should step off one rung of the ladder onto the next one. Fly for a bit. Just try on different things—different shoes. Have a good rest and think about all the different things. There’s lots of time. You’ve got lots of time to do what you need to do. And don’t look to others to accept it. You’re emotionally drained and you’ve been this for a long time, my dear. That’s not something new.

Take some time to rest and find your truth. You’ll find it. Don’t think that it has to be through making money. And do understand that your great passion for animals may not always be an easy thing for you to give away or to sell for money. Allow some things for yourself that have nothing to do with receiving back, but just do it for the joy of doing it.

It’s because of this back and forth, the idea that you feel the need to do something to earn money or have a place in society that is looked up to. Forget all that. Realize that you need to look up to yourself for a while. Society, if they wish to they can get in line with you, and I’m sure that will occur.

You have great joy. People love to be with you. Remember this. Perhaps you should take time to teach people how to enjoy life.

Thank you. I’ll pass these words on to Gail.

Choices and trust in a relationship

I have a question from Brenda who is feeling unsettled in her relationship. She wonders if it’s her own stuff (fears and insecurities) or if there’s a reason she doesn’t feel able to trust her boyfriend. She wants to know if there’s a future in this relationship and if she is where she should be in this world. Also, she wonders about a past life connection with him as she feels so strongly about him but feels it is not reciprocated as deeply by him. She’d like to know how to move forward.

Blessed one, I will not tell you the future--for you create it yourself. The conditions and the attitude under which you live affect the choices you make. You will choose what is right for you for the vibrational state at which you be. And that is why I address this, for I do not believe you are thinking about you. You are thinking about others, and what will be, instead of being in the moment that you are in. This does not mean that you can’t have plans and dream about what will be. But do not leap forward. Be secure in the moment.

Trust is an interesting thing. It is a combination of many emotional centers and the physical being of a body. It is a unity of heart and mind, touch and senses. And if a part of you feels unsure then you must listen to this. It would be unwise to step forward if in any part of your being you feel unsure. You will choose what you will have. Be sure you put you in the scenario my dearest one.

Are you in the right place? The fact that you are asking this says yes, you are; the fact that you are wondering. You have had a past life with this one. It was difficult. You are more in tune than this one is. It doesn’t mean that it cannot be. It means that you must use all your ability to be, to touch, that that it is you need to do.

Thank you. I'll pass these words on to Brenda.

An evening of interaction with spirit guides

Jane and Joanna are are very pleased to announce a special evening presentation in Victoria BC on October 23---Dialogue with Spirit Guides.



After many years of giving individual sessions, Jane now feels ready to channel for a larger audience. We have been looking for ways to expand the ways that guidance from the guides can be shared. This blog was one avenue; now we are opening to another. We have booked a 300 seat theatre and are inviting people to particpate by being present with us as Jane channels the guides. People in the audience will be invited to ask direct questions of the guides that come through.

If you're interested in details about tickets, click on the poster to enlarge it. We are looking forward to a fascinating and informative evening in the presence of these beings from the light.

Healing from a relationship that ended

Barbara asks about healing from a relationship that ended. She has had dreams about her past partner and she feels loneliness and health issues with him. She says she’s been getting a feeling that she should send a message of well being. She asks why, if she’s supposed to heal and go on, is she is getting such a strong urge to get in touch with him? She wonders if they have telepathic communication between them.

Dear Barbara, when one has a bond with another being and one chooses to move away and separate from that one, the bond does not dissolve and disappear. There will always be a part of you loving this one. You realized that you could no longer live and dwell close to this one. It was destructive for your being. I’m not surprised that your heart will often be in tune with his needs and his wants. It is true this one has some health difficulties but it is not your responsibility to heal or to help this being. But do know that that love that you send to surround him will have an effect.

Does it mean there is a continuum for the two of you? Within this bond that was created a long time ago, it will always be. But as to actually being face to face and speaking in kind and accepting ways, this may not always be the case. For you are the one that has healed and evolved and moved forward; not so much the partner.

Telepathic is an interesting word. It is sensing a being. You are a very evolved being and will always be in touch with those that you have loved and have a connection or a bond with. It is a vibrational state created by the two of you, or by others that you are close to. You are a wondrous being. Be that that you are.

The dilemma of helping pets to pass over

Are we doing the animals a favour when we help them pass over, or are we just making it easier on ourselves?

Think of it this way my dear, you love this creature very much and they are suffering terribly. You know the outcome, you have accepted that. It is the same as saying, alright, I have been shot in the heart with an arrow. Now, do I pull the arrow out, or do I shove it in all of the way? Do I suffer through pulling it right through my body more, or do I pull it out and feel? For you, you must feel. The choice lies within each individual action and the being where they be in their evolutionary path. If you have the ability to lessen pain, is it right? It all depends upon how evolved you are? It is a dilemma that is great in your world.

Yes, because we do have these abilities and really the question applies to people as well...

You’ve always had these abilities. The power of strength over the power of weak. Nothing new. Suffering is a part of the physical world. Pain is a part of the physical world. Choices, as to how much, is up to you. I am not making light of something that is very difficult.

But can we make that choice for another being?

The best choice. Is it right or wrong? I cannot answer that.

Then it depends on...?

It depends upon where you are in your circle.

And the others as well? It is easier to do when it is a person and you can discuss it. I guess with our animal companions.... Well, we discuss it through our heart. I guess.

Yes, and if you understand their purpose is to teach you about unconditional love, it will help you. Be not afraid of the transition. I think if you understand that, you will make the right choice. There always are going to be certain things we will not answer for you because the element of growth is at hand.

Thank you.

I had so hoped to have a definitive answer on this because it is a dilemma faced by many people who love their pets and hate to see them suffer. The guides refer to the "element of growth" and I take this to mean that through our choices in the moment we grow and evolve spiritually. It's not always easy.
Joanna