Illness as an opportunity

Mary asks about her situation. Her husband has recently been diagnosed with a pretty serious illness. She says, “Can you give me any insight as to what is going to happen to us? We’ve been through so much in our lives already.”

Dear, dear Mary, teach by being, by trusting—trusting that all will be even better. You cannot do this when it is fear that you hold for your husband instead of trust that he can do this, that he will be well and strong. And so you draw to yourself the negativity. No you didn’t create it; but you are teaching it. You must through your actions and your belief—believe. And trust that everything has a reason. You’ve known this before. You have looked upon many of the things that have happened in your life, though difficult, as opportunities to learn. And you have learned. And you are more radiant now than you ever have been. This opportunity is for the two of you to come close together, to speak from your heart one to the other, to hold and to cherish. How you have grown! How amazingly strong you are! This doesn’t have to hold you back at all. Be that that you are my child. Be that that you are.

Feeling tired and blocked at every turn

Gail asks about feeling tired and blocked at every turn. She says, “It seems there is too much work and too little day. I’m depressed, don’t want to talk, and wonder what is the use of anything at all.

Oh blessed one. Be still. Know in your heart, the centre of your being, you are a bright light. You have such deep compassion and love. You are feeling right now that you do not have the ability to make choices. That is what overwhelms you. But you can. Firstly you need to make a change. Go for a walk, see the world again, envision yourself out amongst others, talking and laughing and touching the lives of others. You are very overwhelmed by many who are making choices for you—and you not realizing what you have chosen.

Are you unwell? You often think you are because you are so exhausted. It is true that there are certain hormones in your body right now circulating that cause you to feel somewhat exhausted and thinking somewhat irrationally. But you are not so ill that you cannot go and get help. Talk to someone. Share with them your feelings. You are certainly not alone, and have a most radiant light. You have such ability to help others. And perhaps by understanding your ability to help others you can help yourself.

You know for sure that if someone came to you and spoke of having feelings like this you would instantly extend a hand to them. Give this hand to yourself. Go out and speak to someone outside of your life and they will help you. Trust in this my blessed one. You are not alone. The entities around you are trying to remind you of the light that you are. And you have so much to give. And you are so needed in your world.

When you say “go out and talk to someone” do you mean someone who is not just a friend or a relative but go and speak to a counselor, you mean?

It can just be a friend, but someone outside of your immediate family. A friend that will help to see you, help you to actually see yourself.

OK, I’ll tell her that. She sounds very lost right now.

She is not. She is not alone. And if she truly stops for a moment she’ll start to see many things that she might call coincidences that are starting to line up. There will be books all of a sudden at her fingertips. There will be a page catching her eye, a line, some information that will stick out. There is all sorts of information at her fingertips right now calling to her. There are beings all around her truly trying to communicate.

Be still and listen to the wonder. And it will be loving, it will not be detrimental, it will not be negative. It will be all loving. Follow this love and you will find yourself happy again.

Thank you, I’ll pass this on to her.

When the guides refer to "entities" they usually mean entities is spirit rather than people in bodies. What this means Gail is that you have many, many spirit guides who are with you and extending love and help. Do pay attention to coincidences and follow your heart.
Joanna

Choices in a relationship

bj asks "Has David made the right decision to go back into a relationship that ended in divorce some years ago? The decision to go back was made out of guilt on both sides because of family problems they are now going through, problems they feel may not have happened if they had stayed together."

Hmmn. It is interesting why this question is asked. This one must tend to her own heart and heal her own being at this time.

Are you talking about the woman who asked the question?

Yes. It is not for her the choice to do another being’s work for them. It is important that she take care of her own being. This will help her to understand what she needs to do.

This answer?

Yes. They must do what they must do. Whether it be right or wrong, it is not up to her. If she is asking whether he has made the right choice or not, I will say that he must choose what is right for his path. This is a complicated yet very simple task. The two spoke things that were not truth at the time. And as time has evolved they have learned more to be who they truly are. They are different beings. It is not an old thing; it is a new thing.

Yes, and I know that we can only be responsible for our own decisions, and our own choices and our own growth.

That is truth. It does not mean you cannot care. It does not mean you cannot support and help and have true compassion. It is not that you must walk through a lifetime worrying only about yourself and not another. But that you can only truly be responsible for your own actions and choices.

Thank you.

Healers, past lives and feelings of instant connection

KF asks about a dear friend who is coming to a time of great spiritual growth. She says, "He is eager to open and walk through the doors to his future as a healer--through communication. Is there any advice you can give him as to what he can do to make his passions come true. Also he is curious about past lives. Can you tell him how he can connect with his past? I feel there must be multiple times he and I have shared lives. Our bond is incredible--would you please help explain this and is there anything you can tell me about some of the ones we shared. Many thanks.

These two are very connected. They do enjoy talking about all the many things. It’s important to contemplate the past. The fact is you’ve come back again to support one another in a new and not-yet-experienced promises (or issues of growth). He needs to truly understand his being. In healing for others, you have to understand that you become a conduit, an energy force, to allow the energies to flow through you to others. And this is loving yourself, and then other beings. This could take many forms. He could follow a certain series of programs and study certain things or he could just simply follow his own knowledge, his own inner teacher, to place his hands or make certain movements. The ways to develop healing are as numerous as there are beings in the world.

His dream is to feel wanted and to help other beings feel wanted and loved. This being has spent a good amount of time being lonely and feeling like he was the only one and not having others to communicate with. He does communicate with this one very well because it is an old and well-known vibration between the two of them. Well known. Does that help you?

I think that’s helpful. They say they feel an incredible bond and wonder if there is any lifetime in particular that they have shared.

Yes, of course. They are sensing that old love that is between the two of them, that old knowing. Finishing each other’s sentences, knowing what the other one is thinking or doing. This is usually always shared by one that you have partnered with in the physical love experience. And they have indeed and they have parented many children together. They will often find themselves in a situation of finding it impossible not to have these feelings towards one another. It is always there. It does not mean they have to act on them, but they are very much part of their vibration.

Ok, thank you.

People often become confused about this, thinking that there is only one being they can love. But there are many beings that you might have a promise with—promises are acts of learning. And instead of only one, you might have perhaps many that you have shared this very similar bond with and you may be instantly drawn to them. It doesn’t mean they are the only ones.

Yes, it’s sometimes confusing,--when you’re with someone and then you’re drawn to another.
Yes, there is the word soul mate that suggests there is only one; it is not true. There can be many.

Thank you.

Oneness and connection with all beings

Glennis writes to say that she appreciates this blog as a service to those in need. She says she has no question but would be interested to know if the spirit guides could answer a problem so far away. She says, "I am in New Zealand, the other end of the world. I would be pleased should the spirits speak of me at all."

Yes, this is a wise, tender being. She often feels quite alone and afraid to speak her voice. There is deep, deep intelligence and great ability with this one. It is as if living two lives right now. When she feels ready, she will ask.

How is it that you can pinpoint the particular situation so quickly?

Because I am of the energy of all. I have no limitations of body, or distance. I am part of you, part of this planet being, part of the one I so pleasingly borrow the vocal cords of. Indeed, you ask, you see there is but one energy. Oh, it is all manipulated and worked to create different structures for different learning opportunities. As if I vibrate these pieces of flesh or you hear words so you create a picture. But we are one. The ability is limitless. When you have this understanding you will realize the oneness that you are, one.
I think of it as a great pool or ocean that we can just dip into and connect. We so often forget that oneness though.

Not once you have understood it, then you cannot separate from it.
Can we be in this oneness even though we are in the physical body?

Of course. What you are wanting is to have the sensation physically of Nirvana, or that peaceful state as if a hypnotic trance is over you. But the information is there always. When you dwell your spirit in a physical being, that you create to carry it, free will is an essential part of it. It doesn’t close you, but it cushions you until you are ready to have the knowledge. You are. It is why it matters not about distance. It matters not about the depth, form, substance. It is. You three can sit and be at one. You might think that you are separate from the great one, but you are not.

The bonds you have created amongst yourselves, at this time are both physical and spirit ties. You dwell within these ties more easily then you can consciously accept the understanding of swimming in the great soup. Whatever is necessary.

You do hold the light. I AM with you.

Thank you so much.

Jane and I just love the phrase swimming in the great soup. It's such a down-to-earth image for oneness.

Advice for a mother's decision on schooling for her daughter

Kora asks for help with a decision about where her daughter should go to school. She says, "I am not completely convinced that my daughter is attending the right school. She is very bright; she loves to learn and loves school. However, I am not sure she should stay where she is. There is a public school very close to our home and I can't decide if I should switch her."

This beautiful entity is so worried. She worries so much about the growth and evolution of this beautiful child that she takes from the child her own ability to shine.

I say stand back, not away, but just a bit back. See how the child blooms, and blossoms, and moves forward. Trust that the child knows what she wants and needs. Trust in her power. It does not mean neglect her and allow her to do all things she wishes to do. But allow this child to gather her own strength by making choices. Perhaps not this one, but other choices.

In many ways, you hover too closely. It is not a matter of neglect, it is out of love. It does not matter what school she attends. It matters that you allow this child to shine in the radiant light that she be. And do not fear--this is a strong child.

Advice for one whose life has been difficult

Daryian asks why her life is so difficult. She says she has lived with fear due to her childhood experiences and has a hard time making friends. She wants to be finished with fear and be healthy mentally, physically and emotionally. She asks what she can do to create the life she wants.

As she very well knows, she is an evolved being, very evolved. She came with great promises into this physical world offering many of these promises to other beings, but they did not fulfill their part. So part of her is very disappointed with the early part of her life when these promises were present for others to take up, and grow, and work together with her in different ways as in raising and nurturing, caring.

Beings often have promises with their parents and these were not fulfilled. So there is a great bit of disappointment in this gentle soul. And so, she feels in many ways that this time was wasted, but not so, not at all. For she is a magnificent being and can now choose to release this fear. It is almost as if it is of comfort to her now, as it is something that she knows and she is rather unsure of what is ahead.

Dearest one, I tell you, you can have whatever you want. You need only ask for it and not in a demanding way, but go forward filled with the love of being. Help others. Stoop to help a child, reach to give someone else something that they need. And in that, you will be helping yourself.

It is not surprising that you have been looking inward at your path for you are disappointed with many things. But do not feel disappointed. Evolved beings will let go of that eventually. You are letting go of it and can grab on to the life you want. You are an amazing being, a little chameleon in many ways. You can find yourself in a position anywhere and just take it on without any thought. You know this about yourself. You can be many things. Most evolved beings can. When you find yourself in that place you can be open and loving and calm and not worry so much of that what was.

By being present in where you are now--a survivor, a magnificent light--you will draw to yourself all that you need. Do not see your path as being a burden, but as a wealth. For you have intensity and wonder about you, you could help so many now. Yes, it could have different outcomes, every promise has that ability.

Do you understand what a promise is my dear? They are acts of learning that you come into the physical world to grow through, to be, to understand and they are often in combination with other beings.

I have heard about promises, for example, a being might come to a family where there was abuse. And the promise was to allow the parents to learn from that situation.

Yes, to offer a choice for them of growth. That was the promise and very similar to what this being has experienced. Not the same, but similar.

Any last words for this woman?

Do not think negatively of that that was. You have sparkling light in the midst of darkness. It has not changed your light. You are still radiant. You are just not seeing yourself clearly yet. No wasting of time, instead building of energy. You are doing just beautifully.

Feeling confused about an upcoming move

I have a question from Beth. She says, "I feel blessed to have found this site at this time. I have too many worries swirling through my head and I can't seem to quiet myself to listen (that and having two boys ages 2 & 4 contributes to the noise... and the abundance of love in my life).

"We moved a great distance last fall be closer to my mother who was going through breast cancer treatments. Like all change, there have been pluses and minuses. My husband is not happy with his position here and has found another in South Carolina. We are poised to move over the summer to what we hope will be our "home" for many years to come, yet something, to me, is not quite right.

"I have met souls in the new location that have been wonderful and welcoming, yet, all of the sudden, more and more loving and supportive souls have been appearing in our lives here. My husband is adamant about leaving here but no choice feels right to me. Any guidance or insight would be most welcome. Many thanks."

Blessed one, this truly is not about moving. It is about your being heard, your speaking your words, to be heard. Right now, you have blinders up.

He feels he has given and now you must give. He wants to move because he needs to support his family. He has put a great deal of weight on you my dearest one. You are not afraid of moving. You are not afraid of anything. You are an open, caring blessed being. I think you are very much like a little turtle. You could make a home anywhere. You are always able to make everyone comfortable around you.

The thing that plagues you and worries you right now is that you are not being heard. You need to have him and you sit down together for him to look into your beautiful eyes and into his. Put your hands on his face and have him touch you, one to one, heart to heart. Talk to each other.

You feel alone in this choice he has made. You do not feel he has considered you in this. You are frightened by this. Speak and stay open, please. You love him dearly and he you, but right now the two of you are not communicating. Be tender with one another. I know you are feeling that there is a deadline and you are anxious about this. You never did like deadlines, this is nothing new. Take time to talk. If he would take time to talk with you, you will feel better.

You know these beautiful children will be well anywhere. You are a magnificent being. Speak heart to heart with this one, it will help you.

Searching for answers outside and within

Ana asked about the quote, "I treat everyone else the way I want to be treated"...and she wonders, "if it is coming from inside my heart, what would the reverse be?"

I find this question a little confusing, and I hope you can help Ana.

She is most definitely a very confused being. She struggles with things, she fights against words. She is very confused, frustrated, and angry with herself. She tries to conform to ways and means that others seem to find easily. She takes down bits of information hoping to retain them, but they are not her truth.

Dear blessed one, be still. You are beautiful. You are perfect. Your path, your truth is tailor-made for you. Do not worry. That that you need so desperately is coming to you. Open your heart, do not judge it. Allow the light to flow in. Receiving is often very difficult for beings. They feel somehow that they must do in order to receive, that there must be some act of giving, some exchange of money. Blessed one, BE and allow the light to flow into you, unasked for, with no bidding. You are love and you can receive love.

That is very beautiful.

This being tries so very hard and works everything to the point of sores. It is often the case, I have seen it a great deal. A being will grab on to a book, or theory and it is as if they want to eat it, to grow limbs out of them, as if new hands in which to be, to see everything as a different perspective, another view. But remember, it is your view. That one you know. Pay attention to it.

A couple with relationship difficulties

Kristine asks about a couple with two young children she knows who she knows who are having relationship difficulties. She says, "The woman is a free spirit and wants to pursue an "open" relationship, and he is crushed by this and doesn't know if he should accept this or not. I have heard both sides and offered no bias or judgment. But I am wondering about this in general. What about open relationships or the need to be physically intimate with another? I would love to hear what you have to say about this.

As you very well know the rules and regulations that are created in your society often clash against the spiritual growth of beings, promises made to last lifetimes, years.

When two beings grow and change, it is often very difficult to fulfill. Yes, there are those that are very meant to be together for a long time and those that are meant to be for a small time.

When the promises are completed, there is a need to move forward. Often if another being is forced to be with another there is much a state of no growth can occur. Thus, an unhealthy relationship. It does not mean that these two cannot be together if they choose, if they talk, if they can find that again.

This young woman queries as to her state of not loving, an evolved being capable of loving many. In many ways, she is trying to spark something deep within him that she feels has gone missing.

You're talking about the mother in this family?

Yes. She seeks for him to come back to her. That being who was so full of life, and not so accountable for everything. It is interesting that Kristine called her a free spirit; she used to call him that. And so she looks now to both men and women. She seeks to find at something at this point. It seems physical, but in truth, it is more then that. Often when there is something out of balance it might show up as a sexual desire, but it is only the body’s way to try to push into a speaking place, a place of discernment, a place to actually stop and take account of what is going on here. She seeks to find that intimacy again.

She will not find it in that way, but she does not know that. He will not find it by being afraid. He is looking away instead of at her. He is making demands and rules instead of realizing that this would never to do for her. He needs to sweep her off her feet again, but he has forgotten how.

It is difficult when there are other beings that they love dearly and they have put their importance over theirs, which is not unheard of, of course. They are important and love is abundant for them. But to find it for themselves.

Are you referring to the children here?

Yes, for the parents to find it for themselves is the most important thing now. It can be done, but both must be willing. You see, when there is more than one promise at hand, it is difficult to help. I can only give them the information that it can be done.

And if you were going to address this with another situation, might the answer be very different, the answer?.

some explanations for deja vu.

KF asks if it's possible to explain what is happening when a person experiences déjà vu. She says she experiences this quite frequently.

There are many different reasons for this. There is your scientific reason that the brain trips, for a moment, that the heartbeat causes one to think that time actually changed or you have seen it before, but in truth, you have not. Then there is a spiritual understanding that you are now having the ability to see time and space as a separate thing. To see your presence in a separate domain, as if stepping out for a moment and getting to view it. It is a good thing for this being. Amusing perhaps, interesting, but something that this being is being taught--to see her path, to take a moment out, to not always react, but to see it as if witnessing her own path.

So in her case it is an experience that is there for her learning about her path?

Yes

With other people, it might be something different, the déjà vu?

Yes.

The cause of back pain

Andrea asks about recurring issues with her back and neck. She says, "I have been taking supplements and acupuncture and chiropractic treatments but I am beginning to wonder why this is not getting better. I am wondering if there is a karmic issue that is causing this recurring pain. Is there any insight you can give me? Can I do something to fix the root cause of this issue?"

The root cause--the blessed one, how sweet! Karma (she uses the word) otherwise known as balance. Pain in the back, in the neck, is otherwise known as balancing one’s life. Her path, her life, is very hard on her. She takes on way more then she needs, always trying to help others, trying to do a hundred things at one time. Simplify, blessed one. Take time for yourself. It does not do any good to take a therapeutic thing, and then go home, and do a thousand different things, dearest. You need to simplify. Take time to rest to balance your life. In each choice think about the balance of it. If you do this, I will take time for that. You shall heal my dear when you decide to simplify your life.

Is this information applicable to everyone with back pain?

Not everyone, but most. The symbols of different parts of the body show where to put your attention and concern. A reaction in the back tells to put concern there, to understand the weight that is upon the being. It is the only way your body can talk to you--by pain. And most often the shoulders, often the back, will respond when there are too many directions, too much to think about, too many people asking questions, and too much responsibility. It is not that you cannot do these things. But simplify, space it out. Stress is a constant in your physical world. It is nothing you can ever stop, but you can time it better.

Thank you. I think this is good advice for many people.

Motherhood and Mother Energy

I have a question from someone with the initials ML. She says, “I feel (with shock and sadness) that motherhood has passed me by in this lifetime and wonder why. Is it for a purpose I am not aware of?”

Dearest one, dearest one, you concentrate too much on one thing instead of understanding the whole of what motherhood is--to love, to give, to support. You do not see how you have helped so many beings. You have been this for many and yet you have not truly understood all of what you have done. This physical domain has its strict limitations sometimes and sometimes these can be broken. But you can move past this by mothering whomever you choose my dearest one. There are many that can be drawn close to you. You need only ask for it. The limitations of the flesh are not something to fight against, but to embrace.

You have a most amazing ability to love. Allow it to be free. As you know very well, even the dear ones that try to console you, you often find yourself consoling them. Love--allow it to flow through you and truly understand that Mother Energy is what you are. It doesn’t always have to manifest. I know that you want to have of your own. Dearest one, you have had many of your own. See the goodness in who you be and understand there is much more yet to be. You will see in time, blessed one. Do not stop loving.

The guides often use the term Mother Energy as a synonym for God or Tao. I just love the words Mother Energy in this context because for me it conveys both unconditional love and the creative force in the universe. And we are all are little sparks of this Mother Energy walking around in physical bodies, experiencing our lives, expressing love and fulfilling our promises in this world.

Cycle of hurt in mother-daughter relationship

Kristin is having difficulty with her mother. She says, “I don’t know what to do. I often feel she drains my energy. She does not seem to approve of who I am and I feel she is always trying to make me into a different person instead of accepting my personality. I try my best to understand and accommodate her but do not feel she tries to understand me. I do love her very much and I believe she loves me but I do not think she likes me very much. I do not know how to break the cycle of hurt in this relationship.”

Dear, dear one. Oh, mother does love you dearly. But often what occurs between mother and daughter is this: When the daughter tries to take on her path and grow and radiate (all wondrous things) that the mother begins to think of choices she might have made if she’d had another opportunity. And a feeling begins, a feeling of “I wish I had done that”

Know that your mother does not want you to feel the way you do. She does approve of you. She adores you, but she feels that many of her own choices were not the right ones. And with the choices you are making she wants you to make no mistakes, instead of realizing that you must make all your own mistakes and grow from them, as she did with hers. That you are both separate individuals. She does approve of you my dear, very much. She thinks you are amazing in all ways, and that you will be a wonderful being, greater than her.

You worry that she isn’t choosing for herself right. And you worry that your actions might cause her some disdain. You want her attention for all children want their mothers attention and love and acceptance. And you have it. Even though she has an amazing ability to speak, she doesn’t always say the right things to you. She wants you to have no pain, no difficulties.

Tell her that It’s right for you to have your own pain, make your own choices and that your relationship with her should be pure love. It would be better if you two could speak openly about this. The two of you are often so close to tears and yet you hold them back. Speak of your heart; allow her to do this as well.

Thank you.