It's about making choices for yourself

Sandy asks about her future with a man.  She writes, "I have been involved with a man, R, who is now facing some big questions in his life. Will we end up together, or is he meant to follow another path?

Dearest one, sometimes you wonder if you have hitched your wagon to the wrong horse. Have you put trust and faith in someone that didn’t deserve such trust and faith?  Have you made dreams on no foundation?  All of these questions you ask yourself.  It is not about his choices and his next steps. It is about yours, dearest.  And you are not breathing. You have put your life on hold.  You have been waiting and waiting and now you want an exit.  You have every right.

You are tired of waiting.  Are you tired enough to use the words to put the actual words out there?  Are you tired enough to hear what is truly being said and shown by his actions?  Do you love yourself enough to make choices to live your path, the path that you so deserve?  You deserve all of the light and love that is there for you.  Do I answer your question with questions?  Yes, my dear for you are in a time of great growth.  You are anxious.  You are almost frightened, but don’t be.  Take deep breaths.  Be still and make the right choice for you. For you.

Instructions for finding the right path

Gail says she's not sure if she's on the right path. She says, "I need instructions!"

You have walked a path that had such guidelines and limitations in many ways, and you know this. For the longest time you wanted to run away from all of those time-clock limitations, doing this, doing that and fulfilling this and fulfilling that. What did you fulfill for yourself?  Freedom.   And now what? What you have asked for is at hand. Embrace it. There is a great part of you needs to write things down. Begin by telling how you have evolved. It will be good practice for you. Is that instructions enough for you, my dear?

Being lost in the past instead of being in the present moment

Maurice says, "I can't recognize myself no more. I'm lost in my love life, work etc... What happened to me? I'm always thinking about the past when it was more happy moments?

Why is it that this being thinks only about the past instead of the very moment that they be in?  Often, it is because something is unfinished, incomplete.   

So, dear one, address each situation and understand that you had choices.  You took actions, so own them now and understand as to why you did these actions.  And don’t be afraid to be in the moment of pain, or discomfort.  Don’t be afraid to not recognize yourself.  You have grown, you have evolved, you have changed.  It isn't the case that that will be the only happy time.  But you will not let yourself be happy right now for you do not feel it is complete.  Be in it, feel in it, roll around in the pain of it until you are tired of it.  And then stand and shake it off and realize you have grown.  And your steps forward will be stronger, your love will be more vibrant and you more radiant.  Bless you my child.

Feeling abandoned by his spirit guides

Maurice would like to know why he has never felt or heard his spirit guides.  He asks, "Have they left me?  My life has been very hard all those years and maybe that's why! thanks." 

  

No, dear soul, you have not been left.  In fact, you are very amazing and you have done beautifully and your choices have been right.  And the growth has been amazing.  Dearest one, I hope you realize that life is not necessarily easy just because you feel you know your beings that surround you.  Life (or your time dwelling in the physical body in the physical domain) is a learning time and you must admit that you have learned a great deal.  

You are very wise.  You needn’t be sad about it for you have grown and you are richer and more radiant now than you have ever been.  There are many old sayings about times like this, when beings in the physical world feel abandoned, and in reality they have never been more assisted and helped. It is true when you do your work, it must be your work.  You are not alone my child and you have never have been.  Perhaps if you sit in quiet solitiude and thank yourself for the growth you have received and done, through your choosing, you will hear them.  You will hear them rejoice for the love you have found for yourself.

Wanting to help someone who has lost his way

Jessie asks about someone named Frank.  She says, "I was involved in a relationship with this being and it has now come to an end. Although I feel a loss in my soul, I feel I needed to let go. I want to love him but he is not ready to receive love from anyone. I fear he repeats the same mistake over and over again and I want to help him to see his worth and to find his way. Please tell me how the spirits can help him or how I can if possible. 

Indeed, it must be the entities that surround him that help.  It is not her responsibility to do so.  If she is frustrated with this, tell her to send her love, to focus it, to envision him in white light, happy, making the choices he needs to.  Dearest Jessie, I know you want him to want you, to need you.  But you need to take time now to allow, to strengthen your being, to radiate out that that you are and find the love that will fill your heart.

May I say one more thing to this dear Jessie?  When a bond is made with one in the physical world, or in spirit, and one chooses to not be in their physical presence any longer, it does not mean the bond diminishes.  In truth, it is still there.  It changes and grows. This is one of the most common things in the physical domain, to create growth.  It is not surprising that she still loves him and wants him to do well.  Part of her wants him back and part of her does not.  But she cannot be responsible for him and the choices he must make.  In other words, she cannot grow for him.