The effect of being unwanted on an unborn child

Someone who left no name asked if  a woman is pregnant  and does not want the child does it cause any negative effects to the baby.  She says, "Will the baby carry these or her emotions when it is born? Will the baby feel rejected for its lifetime? And if the baby is unwanted by the father (in utero) does this affect the baby?  Thank you for your wisdom."

Emotions and feelings are energies.  They have a distinct wave pattern and yes, it affects all.  You must also understand the evolution of the being, the child being carried.  What you call child could very well be a very ancient being and this would have a very different effect than it might on one that is very new. So for each it is different.

But in truth it would always have an effect on the being.  As to how much it would affect a child's path or the whole outcome of the life, there are many variables as there are fingerprints in your world, as there are energies. For some it may be very positive and for others it may be negative.   Both will have a purpose and the outcome will be growth.

Remember that a being chooses to come through.  They know what is present.  A new soul, perhaps, not as much. But the every evolved, very much. These ones often come to offer growth to others, to heal others.  To set something in motions to help them move forward, to complete a promise. Do not see this unborn child as a victim, but as a beautiful being you must love and support in whatever way you can.  For all children should be loved, all souls should be loved.  Forgive me for seeing them as wise amazing beings even when they are small.

Shifts in relationships and moving forward

Zarah asks about feeling a big shift in two relationships.  She says, "I feel as if I am watching them end and grieving their loss.  Perhaps they aren't ending but just changing. I understand change is important and part of life but it is bringing sadness. The first is with a man I love truly and completely. I feel we may not have completed our promise but feel I am moving forward. Maybe there is still a chance we will complete whatever it is we need to do, I am not sure. The other is with a woman I love as well, but in a much different way. Can you please help me understand these transitions? And I'm curious what is the effect on a being when a promise is not completed? Thank you.  

Dearest one, recognizing is the beginning of the growth.  Know that you are in a time of movement, of forward movement.  That which was, is changing, moving.  You have released from what you thought previously of yourself, and you you have unlimited your being.

Know that you are allowing yourself to move forward, and understand that no one being stays in one place for any length of time in the physical world. I do not mean by choosing one partner or not.  But the very being’s truth grows and moves.  Your vibrational state heightens with every act of learning.  What you might think of an act of learning being a negative thing can often be the greatest movement of growth and that be positive.

You are in a time of not making clear permanent decisions.  It is a time of being fluid.  Allow the love to grow in you, to heal you.  For this is the most important thing now.

You want to know who you are, or the outcome of it.  And that is the process you are in now my dear.

Trust in your ability to find your own truth.  Listen to that amazing being that you have become.  Love yourself and all will be well.

Taking time before moving on too quickly

Bonnie S asks for guidance about her career.  She wonders if her dreams are going to bring prosperity in her life, or whether she should follow a new path.

Dearest Bonnie, your path has had many amazing things on it. There have been a few times when you have quickly moved past things and not truly understood completely the complexities and the depth of them.  Because of this, there is now a time in your path where there seems to be a stall in the action. 

Oh she she created this; do not think it was done to her.  She may not understand that completely, but there can be times, before moving on too quickly, those around you might have to stall you a bit; trip you up. Not hurt you, but make you just slow down instead of moving too quickly into something that cannot be undone. 

Dear Bonnie, it is time now to take stock of what and how and who you are, to look deep into your own being, not outside at other things.  See how you are liking it.  Do this with love and kindness.  Gentle soul, do not hurry.

Note:  When the guide speaks above of those around you having to stall you a bit, the reference is to the guides and energies that surround you in spirit.  Our spirit guides do have the ability to shift things sometimes so that we don't rush into something that might be a big mistake.  Although ultimately, of course. we are the ones who make the decisions.  

Joanna  

Wanting to be understood by a sister-in-law

Mary asks about a relationship with her ex-husband and her father-in-law from 30 years ago.  She feels it is behind her now but wants to know how to deal with her sister-in-law.

You cannot make someone else’s truth for them yours.  

In other words, Mary wants to be heard and seen and understood by this sister-in-law but that is not possible at this time.  So it is best if she simply be her own truth, if she has accepted the forgiveness of others and moved forward. 

Do not plague yourself with this my dear.  There is a reason you have moved forward.  Accept it…and love yourself.

Thank you.

Thinking about moving to an intentional community

Anna’s considering moving into an intentional community with a group of friends but she’s concerned about the arrangement, partly because some of the people have limited finances.

Dearest Anna, you have tried so long and so hard to be open and evolved trusting and moving forward.  And when you’re feeling fearful, you’re doubting what is being said to you.  My dear, listen to it. You have moved forward in many ways.  You cannot deny the growth that you have already taken.  Listen to it my child.  Your fear has purpose.

Too many things my dear.  You fear even speaking your truth to these ones.  Think about that.  What it would be like if you were in close circumstances with them.  You don’t want to be alone; you don’t need to be alone.  Take small steps at this time.

Thank you, I'll pass these words on to Anna.

Concern about an aging cat

Ruth Anne asks about her cat Misha who has developed asthma.  Ruth Anne can’t bear the thought of losing this cat.  The cat is 11 years old.  She asks if there is anything else they can do.  

Don’t believe it is asthma.  Dearest Ruth Anne, your little one has lived a long time and has brought you great joy.  Be in that joy and love.  Do not be over-anxious.  It is hard sometimes to accept that some creatures do not live as long as you might, but that their process is just as important.  Love this little one; you are the best healer for this little one.  And trust that all is well.

Choosing what to do next in life

Gail says she has many questions for her spirit guide. Should she retire? Which direction should she take?  Is she in the right place?

She is exactly where she needs to be—asking questions.  This often is thought of as a way to escape answering anything.  Truth is, she just keeps taking on more and more jobs, and helping people in different ways, and different things.  Yes money is important and she doesn’t know if she has enough.

What to do dearest Gail?  Enjoy. You have worked and helped; you have many good friends; you have family.  You don’t want to invest all your time in your family but they need you a great deal still.  Enjoy.  You very much deserve it.

You will never stop working.  There will always be something you want to do.  See it as that, as a joy and not as work.  And always ask questions.

To be in touch is to have eyes open--feeling, hearing.  Using all the physical tools that this body has afforded you.  Understand that each being has come forward to create their life, their piece of art, their creation.  The body, thus the creation of whatever it is they come to do.  She has done amazing things but still believes there is more yet.  It is true.

Trust in that my dear Gail.

Worried that a cat may be in pain

Andrea asks about her cat that has had a bad limp for months and its wrist is fused.  She is worried that the cat is in pain and wants her to have a happy, healthy life.

No, it is you who are in pain, dear Andrea.  You are worrying way more than you should and you are making your dear little creature nervous.  You need to relax and enjoy this wonderful being that has come to teach you about unconditional love.  Just enjoy this warmth, this dear one.  It’s true they sometimes have difficulties, but these amazing creatures have learned to heal themselves much better than the human can.  Trust that this little cat is fine and not in pain.  It pains the little one when you are in pain.

Thank you.

Advice for a young man wanting to meet a special girl

Sam wants to meet a girl.  He was told there’s someone named Heather in the future. 

Dear Sam, don’t expect her name to be Heather.  But do know that there is a most wondrous being.  You’re somewhat cautious of your heart, my dear Sam.  And you protect it very well.  You don’t want it broken again.  Let’s put it this way: when you’re with a young woman that you feel is lovely and warm and nice to be with, you be that too.  Allow the magic of the energies of the two of you to search out.  Don’t be afraid of it.  Don’t worry about making a mistake.  Embrace life and the joys of love.  The physical life is wonderful blessing.  Enjoy it.

This doesn’t mean that I want him to run out and have sex.  It means that the energies of meeting and hearts beating and being excited about each other and coming together again is a blessed time, a holy time.  Enjoy it. 

He says he feels a blockage of some kind when he’s around girls.

Yes, it is his heart pounding so hard he can’t feel anything but that.   And he feels afraid to make a mistake.  He thinks himself awkward and uninteresting and this is all not true.  He has stood and practiced many times in front of the mirror.  I don’t think I’m telling tales here.  But he needs to relax more and just see how they are being with him, and then follow their cues, and he will be fine.

Tell him that he is not the only man who feels somewhat weakened when a woman is in close proximity, that this is a natural state many times.

Thank you.  I'll pass these words on to him.

Hearing the wind in moments of stillness

Someone who gave no name says, “in moments of stillness I hear wind.  It is wonderful, but what is it?”

Life--the pulse of her life. This one is quite amazed by love, indeed, in all its wonder and its foibles and its interesting different angles.  It is life, my child. As one evolves one becomes much more sensitive to everything.  Trust in this.  It’s just part of your evolution.

Confused by her feelings of attraction

Shelly is interested in a man who is a minister.  She’s confused by the situation and doesn’t know if she should speak of her feelings or walk away.  She doesn’t know if he’s having fun with her or if there’s some seriousness in this relationship.

Dearest Shelly, you are living two lives right now.  That is very hard for you; very difficult.  But you do not know what is your truth.  This is the most important thing for you to focus on right now:  your truth.  Do not make choices for others at this time.  Step away from all of it and find yourself and your truth.  It is your terrible loneliness that worries me.  Dearest one, you do need to communicate. But it is to yourself, to clarify what it is you want.

There are not even big enough words for what you are facing right now.  You want very much someone to fall into to be held up by, but this is not the time for that.  Right now you must find your own inner truth.  What a gentle soul you are.  You are not alone my dear.

Find a being that you can speak to about these thoughts and feelings.  One that will not judge, one that will hear you, one that you feel safe with.  And have them mirror back.  This will help you my child.  Do not do this with anyone that has strong judgment, of which there are many that surround you.  Blessed one you do know the truth.

So a close friend or a counselor could help her then?

One that she would trust with her life.

Thank you so much.

Retirement options

Someone who didn't leave a name asked about options for retirement.  This person is considering teaching English as a second language, or digital photography, or working with the environment or companion animals, but is worried about the need to bring in money.

You are such a beautiful being and yet you fear you will not have enough.  Open your heart to all those around you.  There is something right before you that you are not seeing, a way in which you can receive money.  It’s not going backwards.  It’s moving forward.  It’s right there, my dear.  There is abundance.

Thank you.

Spirituality and the light of God

Jeanette asks is about spirituality.  She is struggling in the spiritual realm and wants to know what she is to God.  

Dearest Jeanette, you are of God.  You are light of God. Of course you are the love of God. Spirituality is not a system of control, not a religion.  You are spiritual my child—for you look, you listen, you see, you hear.  You’re willing to look all around you and wonder what your place is.  You wonder if your footprint is important, and you’ve only yet begun, my dear.  Yes, every being you touch; every eye you meet, you help.  You are an amazing being.  Do not doubt that you are loved and that you are of love.   To know this.  You know that you love. You are filled with it.  How could you not be of God?

A question about karma and balancing relationships

Robert asks about karma. He says there are so many different opinions on it. He wonders how he can balance his own relationships with people he may have hurt in his past.

Blessed Robert, karma is a word given to the concept of a debt. There is no debt. There is only learning--that you must experience every situation of the human condition. Is there give and take? Yes, there are both sides to every choice. Every situation must be learned by you. Even the middle point must be learned. So, that is why there are many opportunities.

As to the people that you feel you have hurt, then speak to them. Speak of your fears that you have hurt them and you wish to undo that. Why are you afraid? You love to speak of love. You are truly an ancient being and many times you don’t even understand your processes, how it came to this place of hurt. If they are ready, they will accept it.

But remember, just because you are ready doesn’t mean that they will be. Love them. Love yourself. Have humour with yourself my beautiful one. For you are a beautiful light and the world well needs you.

Wondering why people hurt one another

Someone calling themselves "Funtastic" asks about Derrion Albert,  who was beaten and a video of the beating shown.  This person once experienced  being beaten  on the way home from school and doesn't understand why God’s free will allows people to hurt one another.  He says, "even babies have no protection...." 

This being is asking, "Why do bad things happen?"

Yes.

Do not blame it on God.  In your world, your great domain of learning and growing, there is good and bad--and both are good.  To understand this is difficult at times.  There are opportunities for growth; there are choices.  And in this there are variables, the very new and the evolved beings, and how their choices affect others and their own growth.  God didn’t want this child to be beaten.  God wants this child to grow, to evolve, to be strong, to do what it came to do.

You have in your world right now many beings that theorize, that have made statements of why one thing happens over another thing.  Trust that one thing is sure in this physical world: that there will always be some negative.  It is the creator of growth.  Why was the child in that position?  Because this is a wise and loving being; one who would love to offer up promises for others to grow through.  Not all are this strong or wise.

There are many words written down and the common thread is that even through great love there are times of growth and times of difficulty.  Trust my children, that both are necessary.  It doesn’t mean you dwell on the negative; you live in the power of the positive, that you move through it drawing to you only that of the light, that of love. 

When you fear or are worried you draw that to you.  You’re not looking, you’re not aware, you’re not witnessing your life, you’re looking down instead of out. 

Live in the light of love.  Look outward.  Trust that only goodness shall follow you.  For it is with this understanding that you will look on those difficulties as a time of growth.  You will give yourself the ability to step out of this life and witness its amazing path.  You yourself experienced a miracle, and at this time you see only this pain.

I am not scolding you my child.  It is a difficult time to live—but a wonderful time to live.  Trust.  You are loved.  You are not alone.

Coping with a husband's illness

Joan wonders why these things are happening in her life.  Her life has been turned upside down with her husband’s illness.  She says, “I don’t know how to handle the next little while. I don’t know what is in store for me.”

Dearest Joan, believing is not controlling, wanting is not necessarily being fulfilled.  You have now presented before you a great gift, but you are a little overwhelmed by all of it.  Your direction was in another way.  You felt that what you did was to fill a time now, instead of that that would be.

Dearest one, mostly you need to let go of all that you thought would be, and see what truly is there.  This being loves you, in a way that you never allowed him to do.  But you have given all signs that you care and now there is great confusion between the two.  Take a deep breath.  Witness all that is: your actions, the other’s actions.  You are one very wise being.  Always felt you were ahead of each step, never to be surprised.  In fact you didn’t like surprises.

There are great things in store for you my dearest.  Do not rush through this time.  Do not make a quick decision.  Allow things to heal.  Allow a rebirth to take place.  Bless you my dearest.

Speaking of your own needs in a relationship

Becky  asks about her relationship with a man she has been dating for the past five years.  She wonders if she still has commitment issues like she did with her previous relationship and asks whether their promise has been fulfilled.  Should they live together?

Dear Becky.  You mustn’t be so harsh on yourself.  You believe that you stayed too long, but you had such hope.  You are truly a romantic my child. And you want the romance.  You want to be loved in the way that you need to be loved.  Well, my dearest, you must start speaking it out loud.  For even the being that you are now so very in love with does not know your inner mind.  But he is willing to be and do for you as you need it.

Think not about permanency at this time, but of the sheer joy of finding and loving and touching.  You are a being who needs physical touch.  You need closeness.  Too often you think it’s some fantasy that cannot be achieved, but then you’ve never shared with anyone your true need.  Trust my child.  Trust enough to speak who you are and what you need.  For it is well known you are willing to give him everything he needs.  This is your great growth at this time.  You are a beautiful being.  Be that that you are, my child.  You are light.  You are love.  Speak openly of this.  Not in a conceit, but in a gentle truth of who you be.  Bless you my child.

A sense of love and peace

Anonymous asks about an experience at a meeting to resolve a conflict when she was suddenly filled with a sense of incredible love and peace.

Her heart opened and there was communion with the one, and to be there in the light, in that most blessed moment.  It was a time of no words, of no time, no thought—just being.  This will happen more and more to you, my dear.  To transform the whole energy of that that was.  People will say they don’t know what happened or where time went, but you will.

She wonders what the catalyst was for that.

It was in truth the radiance of love that she is.  It has often been spoken that if you speak of love your being is of love.  That is what was heard even though the words might not be that.  You moved the entire thing to the energy of love and it is the strongest energy.  Being a spiritual being you saw the possibility and believed in it.  And moved it to there. You will do this again.  It will become familiar.

Thank you.

Confused about past lives and wondering where you belong

Eric is confused about his past lives and where he belongs.  He feels he doesn’t belong in Indiana. 

What a lovely wise soul!  Has often felt like he was out of step, out of place, perhaps the only one watching and not taking part.  It is because he is very evolved, very old.  And I say to him thank you for coming to be in this world.  This physical world is so in need of him and others like him. Evolved beings often feel alone; they do not have a lot of others that they have communion with.  But there are and there will be and he shall find them in time.

Dear Eric, it’s not a matter of moving to another place, it’s a matter of being out and speaking your voice.  And you will catch the energy of others, their own vibrations. It doesn’t mean to judge others that they are not to be in your life for you can teach them and help them.  Many of the beings in your life talk so much that you can’t get in a word. And you fear that if you spoke your words you would be judged—but it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t talk.

Speak child.  You are needed.  You do not judge.  You help to teach.  Yes you have lived many lifetimes.  I’m not surprised that you would feel comfortable in many different eras.  Museums must be great fodder for your life when all things will seem very familiar to you.  But this lifetime is not just a repeat of that.  There is very much a need—a necessity— for you to be here.   You’ve chosen your wisdom,  to be patient,  to come back.  To help others.  Do not give up on them.  I thank you for being present in the physical.