Conused about a past life connection

Elizabeth asked about how to proceed with Craig, a man she has recognized from a past life. She says, "Recognizing Craig from a past life has been wonderful and a little confusing. First time we spoke I could see him as he was in the previous life (I didn't know this at the time), with brown long hair, olive skin and in his 30's. Then I saw him days later and he is in his 40's, red hair and light skin, I seriously thought I had confused him with another person, but no, its definitely him.

I feel love, anger and sadness towards this man and I don't know where they come from or what to do with them. I find him adorable (I'm all smitten really) but he does not approach me which makes me more sad than it should, and frankly a little angry that he doesn't come and get me. It makes no sense! I don't know this man and we're not even friends. I'm now leaving university, he is a teacher there. Should I leave this alone? I don't want intrude. I ask because this is the first time I've encountered a past life recognition this way and with my troubled situation of accepting love it all makes me very uncomfortable.

Yes, dearest one. You are a very evolved being. You will have more and more abilities to understand the past, both that that was and that which is.

It is in your great wisdom that you know you should move on. It was true what you saw, what you felt about this being. It was impossible for him to react. Your society states certain things and expectations. This being is also very wise and would never want to harm, or hurt anyone.

You in turn are this way, as well. You have difficulty loving, yet you have been searching for a love for a long while. Know that there is one that is coming that you will share time and love with. That is why you are seeking it in many different avenues. You have always felt the need for love, but never received it early in this life, as you should have. Especially from a dear father that you needed so desperately. You will find this being; he is coming to you my dearest one. Trust in this and know that the path you are on is a magnificent one. You are wise; trust in this.

Many times a being will encounter one from a previous experience of growth, or past life as you call them. Your society does not allow this to be. Love is never a bad thing. But there are often choices that cause difficulty to others. You must accept that. Bless you my child for you are very wise.

Death of an old relationship, opening to a new one

Beverly asks what happened with the man she met after the death of her last relationship. She says, "For three years he said he loved me and then suddenly he made a decision to go on without me. It was sudden and shocking. Can someone shed some light on what happened?"

Dearest Beverly, you use the words of death for the relationship, for you wanted to die, but it has not. You still love this being and the heart connection is so very deep within you. You must heal this. Love never dies my child. It helps you. It helps you grow. And you are a better being for the love you’ve had.

You want to know why and how, you and wonder if you can blame yourself, or him, or others. Be not in that mindset dearest child but be thankful for the love that was. For you are a magnificent being. You want to love again but you have not made that possible because you are very much still in that place of not moving forward.

Be not afraid, my child. You can love. What happened was his choice. He was fearful and has some difficulties. He spoke untruths and that only brings back unhappiness to him. And so your bright light caused him to feel uncomfortable. You do not need to change, my dearest. You do not need to speak harsh words towards him. You need to BE LOVE for that is what you are. Open the space in you to allow the growth and welcome in a new love. For there are many, because you have great capacity to love. You are a beautiful being.

Getting back to a place of oneness

Jane asks how she and her son can get back to the place where they were one.

It is a simple task, my dearest. And yet, in your conscious mind, so busy. You are always trying to work out things in the best way for all those around you. I know you often feel like you wish you could put your mind down for a while. That is almost what I am going to say to you. To still the conscious mind. To allow your heart to grow large and open. And when you are with him it is best not to speak words, but just to love, to touch. Every time a word of judgement or expectation comes into your conscious mind, still it, and think love.

You have experienced a great deal of difficulty and you have been very harsh with your own being. Thus, you are trying to understand why he is being harsh with you. You are but one with this being. You have come to teach each other to help each other. So do not judge. Touch. If you feel uncomfortable with this and when you are present, just open your being to him. Visualize a flood of warmth and love pouring out of your chest and surrounding him. See him with the soft love that you have for him and in time, he will feel it.

In time, he will be still within it. This is the place of wonder. This is as you were in spirit together. Don’t be angry with the complications of a life that has brought you to this learning. You chose it. Not out of harshness, or meanness to your being, but out of love. The growth is important. That in time, this child and you will use this growing to help others and yourself. Does that help you? I hope so my dearest.

Advice for one in an abusive relationship

Caitlin asks about abusive relationships. She says, "I find myself in abusive relationships often, the current one is the worst. I want to break free of this, and to be able to not be scared. I've come close, and my life is overall fine. should I move?"

You often find beings around you trying to help you and yet you refuse. There is part of you that believes that you must take pain in order to be loved. Dear heart, learning to love yourself is taking action to heal, to live without fear, to have the right to speak your heart and not be judged.

Why has this returned in your life like a circle within a circle? Each time you see it more clearly and deeply. It is because you have not learned to love yourself. When you have the deep knowledge of how beautiful you are, how amazingly kind and loving. You may not understand why these beings have come again. It is because you have invited them. You need to learn the word "no." And you need to learn boundaries. Tell yourself, "Who I am is just perfect!" Do this over and over.

Of course you need to move, you know that. You don’t need anyone else’s information to do that. Yet you fear. Beautiful one, stop. Allow the love from the universe to be there for you. Drink deep of this love and radiate it out. You are perfect and you are love. Say this to yourself until you be in it.

You already know what you must do to save your being. I love you my child.

First love and promises

A young woman calling herself "Hopelessly Devoted" asks about the connection she feels to a boy. She says, "There's this boy, because there's always a boy, and I feel like... like maybe we are meant to be. Yet, we never seem to be on the same page. We never really have expressed our feelings clearly. Sometimes I'm just convinced that we are meant for each other, but then I'll re-think it and start to think maybe it's just a fantasy I've built up in my mind. I just can't seem to get over him. In all fairness... I'm only 20. But I've felt this way for multiple years. Every time I see him now, I get all floopy and fall down and it feels like I've been hit by a truck. i don't know, I just don't know what to do anymore. I can't seem to move on. I don't even know how I feel anymore. Is it always this hard to get over first loves?

Blessed, blessed being. You are in love with love. You are a romantic and you love life and you love all of the senses that it gives you. Never, never be uncomfortable with this. Find love and laughter and life in all things you see. Yes, this being has known you before and you him. He is not in any position or awareness to have the same awareness or sensations that you have.

You are a very wise and forward moving being. Love yourself in all of your wonder. First love, my dearest one. You love all things and all beings. You are an amazing being. You will find yourself working with other human beings to help them, to heal them. Why not, you want it to be.

Accept where he is at this time. Will it be more in time? If he grows and moves forward. If not, you will move forward. Know that you will always find love my child. There is never just one for one being. Some come with a very ancient knowing of another. There are always promises.
And you my dear have many promises. Promises are tasks of learning, a purpose for being there, to complete, to balance. You have a knowledge of the growth that you need.

So this young woman has promises with many beings. Often we have a belief that that we are to have one partner for a lifetime.
Many times in your world the understanding of promises is as a life-long vow. If you choose this, it is for for yourself and not for the other.

So you are only responsible for your part of the promise.

Yes.

A new love, an instant connection

Sandy asked about a man she met a couple of months ago while visiting another city. She says, "There was an instant connection. I feel very at ease and at peace with him, and he feels the same with me. Even when we're apart we can "feel" the other's presence and sense their mood and thoughts. There is also a strong physical attraction. Because I live in another city several hours away and am recently separated from my husband we are taking things slowly even though we both would like to spend every spare moment together. I have never felt this strongly about anyone before; could it be a soul mate or twin flame connection?"

Blessed, blessed one, rejoice in your amazing energies, in both of you. Be in that energy. Have not expectations or limitations but welcome that that is--in the moment of now. Choices, there are many. Understandings are too many. Be in the love that you feel, the excitement. It is an amazing power. This is a reunion. Have no expectations and allow it to grow to a most beautiful flower. It will bear fruit if you allow it love, sunshine and space.

As to your wanting to put limitations as to your mate or twin soul, these are words that your society has formed to try to contain an understanding. Release yourself my child and be. If those around you need words, allow them to use words. If it gives you comfort, then accept them. But do not limit the energy that you be or that love is.

Thank you. I'll pass these words on to Sandy.

Job seeking, self-confidence, and the economy

Pat says she has been looking for a job for a while with no luck. She says, "Yes, I know the economy stinks, but I think my career path has deeper karmic issues. Can you help me uncover what it is holding me back in my professional life?"

Dear one, you have difficulty radiating your own wealth of abilities and goodness. You are somewhat hesitant in speaking all of your abilities to do things. It is an amazing mix you are, a wonderful being. You will find what you need to do. But you are going to have to speak more about how you can be.

You have been surrounded by many that are in a sort of one-up-manship. Each being wants to shine greater than you. Don’t take part in that. That is not what I speak of. Simply be still and when the moment is right, say that you can do it, that you will, you shall; that you are an amazing being. Perhaps you won’t use those words.

It is hard for people to speak of their own talents, or abilities.

It is an ancient, old way that causes this problem. There is nothing wrong with saying that you can. It builds trust and confidence and it teaches others to do so as well. Your old religions, though I am not saying they are negative, they often teach that you have to be humble. They even teach that you cannot talk to God, yet God is within you. It is hard because of old patterns of thinking. But in truth, those old patterns of thinking don’t fit in your society anymore.

So for Pat, how can she feel more confident about speaking of what she can do?

By using all of the tools at her fingertips: her radiance, her style, her smile, her confidence. To step forward taller, to walk upright, head up and chin out, to present that brilliant light and it shall be.

And the economy doesn’t stink; what is occurring now in your physical world is necessary, almost as your garden is needing weeding.

Some people refer to it as an adjustment.

A shift.

Yes, I see it as that. Was there too much focus on the money and the material?

There was too much based without roots. There was too much talk without substance. There will always be money now because beings find they like to have this. It gives them a sense of confidence. It does not have a truth or substance anymore as it did one time in society.

How do you mean?

Money doesn’t have the same worth that it did. You have so much of it, it means less and less.

So it is not valued as much, or respected?

Yes. Large numbers of very new and very old souls have caused this imbalance. An old soul would not see money as having a great worth other then to create good to help others. To build things that are strong structures. Very new souls want, well…

Flash?

Yes, they want to dance, but not in true rejoicing, rather in a fevered dance, a hurried approach, to attain everything as quickly as possible. Love them and be patient. Your economy is doing very well where this one (Pat) dwells.

Thank you for your words. I'll pass them on to Pat.

Choices for growth

Gail asked if she is where she is supposed to be.

Yes. There are always going to be choices. In a matter of days, the choices can be absolutely different. I know of the frustration that you are feeling. I know your great need to.... Well, in time you will see that you are a teacher. You have taught many already but are not totally conscious of this. You are open, you are listening and you are ready. You are exactly where you need to be my blessed one.

Many beings ask questions often when they are at a precipice of something and they think the question they are asking is should I stay in a home, or in a relationship. They say, "Am I where I should be?" When in fact, yes they are, but no they are not. They are being exactly what they need to be to make the choice, to take the action. They might look back and say, "Well, I wasn’t in the right place"... but in fact they were, because they made the choice.

You see I cannot do the work for her, but I can tell you that she is in the right place right now.

That makes me think of people who look back on their life and think about a choice that they wish they hadn’t made or perhaps they feel they made a bad choice or a wrong choice, yet...

If growth is created, then the choice was good.

So all choices are good then--because they create growth?

Well there is a vibrational increase with all choices, and each choice adds to the total vibrational quotient of you. One choice might not be the greatest, but it is growing. While there may be another choice that is supremely the best choice in terms of spirit growth.

Yes, I see then that the choice is always for growth? So that is the scale, that we look on: Does it create a little bit of growth, or does it create a huge amount of growth?

Yes, exactly.

OK, I understand that this is the lens that we should look at things through. But sometimes we might not want great growth right at that moment. What then?

Then know that the amount of growing is less, but you still grow.

Thank you.

Rejoice in the feelings of love reawakened

A man calling himself Mr. Tone asks about his reconnecting with an old flame from 28 years ago. He says he finds himself thinking of her every minute and she feels the same, but unfortunately she is married. He asks, " I'm just wondering if we would ever be together; she wants to be with me and she has stated so."

And you want me to foretell the future? Rejoice in the feelings of love. It is awakened within you my dear one. Something that you felt not possible. It is a youthful, exciting, amazing thing. As to whether you will be together, that is yet to be seen. There are many choices that need to be made. Each individual, not just her but you as well.

There will be many changes you must choose if you were to do this and she as well. I cannot tell you what you will do, for that is up to you. It is your responsibility for your choice. But there is never anything wrong with love. There are many actions that can be somewhat destructive and in many ways chaotic. Choose what you need to do for your being, blessed one, and rejoice in being awoken, alive.

It is interesting in the physical form how you want to have a time limit on things. Yet, in the very moment, in the height of love are the highest in that moment. What you believe and think and dream of, is never quite what is in the moment of it. Enjoy it, be in it. Love is an amazing energy especially this form of love.

I think I hear you saying that we are often are thinking more about how we can make this stay, how we can make it happen in the future, how we can manage things instead of experiencing the bliss of the moment.

Yes, I do understand the time element of the physical world. But too much is under control issues instead of receiving the great gift that you have received and that part of this being was closed down and is now awakened. And in truth, part of him feels that he is that youthful being again. What a grand gift.

Emotional eating

Andrea has asked a question about emotional eating. She says, "I have been struggling with compulsive overeating for about the past 10 years, but much more severely in the past 5 years. When I am in a place where I am overeating, it is like it consumes my whole life and my whole being, and I am not mentally strong enough to come out of it on my own. When I am not in a time of overeating, I then wonder how I ever let it consume my life. It is very hard, because it can come and go so easily. I know that it is linked with emotions and mental state, but that knowledge doesn't seem to be enough to keep me from sabotaging my own happiness. I am so ready to move forward and away from this, it just seems so impossible to overcome. Any kind of insight would be so greatly appreciated."

This blessed being is so, so loving, so gentle; never wanting to disturb, or harm, or cause any chaos for anyone. But for her own being internally there is a great amount of chaos. Eating, an imbalance of the eating process must be seen in its wholeness as a need to be nourished. It is instinctive when a young child to be nourished when communicating pain, or discomfort. So it is not unusual that the part of the very primitive brain of this one when very uncomfortable wants to be nourished. And in truth, she must nourish her body with good amounts of food that are not out of balance. But sometimes when she eats, she is in total frenzy inside.

It is most important for her to learn to calm that inner voice, to find a place of peace and tranquility. But it is not through food. It is not through need of control. It is a matter of finding love for her own being, time for her own being. She gives so much to others and not to herself.

Blessed one, please stop seeing it as a problem. Start seeing it as something that your body is trying to tell you. You need love. So how would you go about getting it? Putting words to it is the first way but no one knows. You tell everyone that everything is fine within you. You need to speak it out loud. You need to hear it reflected back to you that you are loved, that you are wonderful. And in time you will begin to love yourself.

Loving yourself is one of the main things about being in a body. Loving this soul, this spirit, having grace and a loving understanding of what you be. The force that moves this divine body that you created. Understand that you are a very powerful being.

And you can be that being, in all ways, in all forms, if you simply be still. Allow the radiance to shine through you. It is most often you do this when you are so busy helping others. You need to start taking much more time for yourself. Simple time, it does not need to be hours and hours. It can be as simply as lingering on a chair for a little while longer. Seeing your world, witnessing it. Seeing how important you are to it. You have created it.

It sounds as though she is feeling out of control with it, but you say it is not an issue of control. So when she is feeling out of control like that, what should she do?

Put everything down, step back and breathe deep cleaning breaths. Listen to her world around her and address only her own responsibilities. What busy times these beings live in. Much more complicated then it needs to be. Put everything down and focus.

Is there anything from her childhood that she needs to reflect upon, or is that not important?

Everything is important. But to truly move forward she needs to address what is now. It is not even possible within her conscious mind to know the exact details where it all began. But if she can still it now this will allow the door to open. Bit by bit it will be seen. She will have the ability to hear it if she gives herself some time.

Any last words for Andrea?

That she is loved. That she is beautiful. That if she could receive the love that she gives to others, she will heal herself.

Thank you.

Staying healthy at work, being in the moment

Jack asks about staying healthy at work. He wonders if shorter shifts would help his energy level.

One of your greatest problems Jack is that you simply are always two days ahead of yourself instead of in the moment. If you truly allow yourself to be in the moment that you are in you would not be nearly so tired. You would not be so fractured, you would not feel so scattered and unsure of where you are at any one moment.

You are an amazing being with great healing capacity. And simply your presence has helped so many. It has given them strength as if a light in the darkness. Do not worry so much about the time you work, but think about the time off as a great treasure at the end of it. Just have it there as something wonderful and fun to do and be mostly in your moments.

If you worry so much about the hours and your exhaustion that is what you draw to you, my dearest friend. You are of the light. You love people; you love helping. Be it—every moment of it. Even in such a simple task of wiping something off, do it with true intention, being present. It’s exhausting thinking of everything days and days ahead instead of being in the moment. You are a wise and good being. Understand that right now you are laying down the works for greater things yet to be; a time when you will be a teacher. So don’t fray your energy by being scattered. Stay centered and keep a diary.

Keep a diary?

Yes. It will help him to see what he does. It will help him to see his worth without thinking he’s all over the place. He’s a wonderful being.

So he should keep a diary to relating to work things or…?

Each day.

All right. Would that help other people too?

It helps all beings to be conscious of what they truly do. Instead of being here and thinking about what is ahead, be here and think of what you have already done. It helps you to sit still for a moment, and be in the moment, even though you’re thinking of moments that have passed. Yes it helps all beings, especially in your world where words and communication and visual aids are so important.

Thank you.

Anxiety about dental work

Suzanne has asked how to be strong and brave. She has upcoming dental work and she is very anxious about it. She asks if there are any tools that can help her cope with this.

My dear little omnipotent one--you cannot hold the world up forever. It is not yours to hold up. You must be responsible only for your own actions. And a lot of your fears come from a very early start when you felt you had to keep everyone in balance. As to fear of dental work, it’s not an uncommon thing. Anyone intruding in your private energy can cause some discord. Just trust that you would be drawn to a being who very much is capable of helping you. That this is a positive thing and that you in the long run will be healthier and stronger for it. See it as an act of wonderful wisdom on your part, for helping you. These amazing technologies that have developed in this world, you mustn’t deny them. They have great strength to enable you to fulfill that that you have come to do.

As to anxiety, face it full on. And know that there are people who are afraid to come to you, but you sooth them as this one will sooth you. Be in peace my child, be not afraid. Embrace it and be that that you are.

Thank you.